Controlling Others

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In our society there are many people who choose to try control other people. There is nothing you can do to control someone else. It is out of your hands. Your hands are tied. Accept you can’t control someone else.

There are many times people want to control the outcome of their relationships. They will become anxious, worry, fret, and become desperate to fix things.

The person will become obsessed with the person and email, message, or call someone repeatedly. This usually pushes people away and scares them out of your life. The person will interfere in other relationships, and cause drama and conflict.

Whether you like the people in their life or not, they have a right to have other friendships, choose their partner, and have a relationship with other people besides you. It’s not healthy to be overbearing and protective.

Trying to control people out of fear produces negative results. You may feel scared and afraid of losing them from your life. If you don’t want to lose someone, you have to let go of trying to control the outcome.

The only thing control does is make them feel trapped, smothered, and loss of freedom to be their true authentic self.

There are times where authoritarians become compulsive controllers.

Any time you want to control someone it is insecurity, jealousy, or fear.

What are you afraid of? Why are you jealous? What will happen if you let go of control? When you let go of control, you are showing someone you trust them. You can build a relationship on trust.

If you’re spying on them, checking on them, watching every move they make, and following them on social media and offline, you are showing them you can’t trust them.

Any time you manipulate someone or try to control them you can be like a boa constrictor squeezing the life out of them. People want freedom, and to be their authentic self. They don’t want to survive living in a fictional self.

They want to be the real deal, free to express themselves, be themselves, and have room to fail and make mistakes. Most of the time they want to feel safe and secure in a healthy relationship.

You may not like what they do, or what they want in life, but they have a right to be their authentic self without harm.